We decided to tell.
To tell or not to tell is something we went over and over in our minds for a long time. What would people think? He will be judged. Life is difficult and this will make things harder. What affect will it have on his ability to cope with every day life?
I have always been open about Alfie’s Asperger Diagnosis because as a parent I think it is important. We all know that someone with Asperger Syndrome can appear rude and un-engaging and this was very true of Alfie which is why we took the decision to tell. We also saw this as a chance to raise awareness around the subject, educating the people who listened.
Bullying has been a problem since Alfie started school. Recently, a child super imposed his head onto another persons body in a video and this really upset him. This happened over the half term holiday but I did not let this get in the way of me contacting the school. Take Cyber bullying seriously.
Cyber bullying was discussed with the teacher the following day. The teacher told us that being open about Asperger Syndrome with Alfie’s classmates would help. When children know there is a problem they often rally round the child in question and he said it had worked in the past. This was the main reason we decided to tell his class.
Immediately after telling them, Alfie said he had the odd few wise cracks and I would be lying if I said they didn’t bother him. They did bother him and he did have a meltdown when he got home. He was dreading going to school the next day but to his surprise the other kids left him alone and they have done ever since. So ‘to tell’ was definitely the best option for him.
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