My name is Rachel and I am mum to Alfie who at the time of setting up this page is 12 years old and who has what is known as Asperger Syndrome.
I’m here to help you understand your childs behaviour and frustration he/she faces on a daily basis in simple language. Not only that but hopefully you’ll consider Asperger’s a blessing rather than a curse.
I know we do!
Please remember that not every child/person diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome will be the same because they are most definitely not. I can only speak from my own experience and the following pages tell my own personal story.
So what exactly is Asperger Syndrome?
People with Asperger Syndrome or Aspie’s as some people like to call them are rarely good in social situations and find it difficult to make friends.
They become fixated on individual subjects and will research until they know everything there is to know about it.
Eye contact is difficult for them to maintain and they can appear quite rude.
Speech develops slowly when they are young and can sound quite odd because they often have a monotone voice.
Everything in the world of an Aspie works with logic and if it isn’t logical they wont be interested.
They also take the world literally as they live in a world of black and white concept. Watching the way you speak to them is important as they follow rules to the letter They need rules and can’t cope if they are broken.
Discipline is important to them.
Children with Asperger’s often become aggressive towards other children.
They can get so angry and frustrated that it triggers what I call meltdown. This can be very distressing to watch.
They thrive on routine and feel lost and frustrated when things go wrong. Some Aspie’s will flap their hands and develop stimming behaviour such as rocking backwards and forwards.
Motor skills can be difficult and may include difficulties with things like riding a bike, using a knife and fork and coping with zips and buttons.
A person with Asperger’s often has difficulty reading facial expressions.
Emotion is difficult to handle and they often fall to pieces when they upset someone close.
Loud or sudden noise is often very painful for an Aspie and you may find they will get very upset in these situations. Noise cancelling headphones are often needed in these situations.
But this is not the case with all Aspie’s, Alfie doesn’t like sudden loud noise but he loves Music.
You can find Alfie’s timeline to diagnosis here.